I respect your decision to stay at home. My husband and I are yet to be blessed with children. We pray we are blessed soon. In the mean time I am working full time and enjoying using the skills the Lord blessed me with whilst also helping my husband to pay off our mortgage so that we can live without debt. Is this wrong? Should I be staying at home slowly growing more and more desperate that I will not have children? I still keep my home in order and cook my husband nutritious meals each day and make sure he is taken care of but that doesnt take up much time. Wouldnt it be worse for me to stay at home being idle for most of the day? I dont wish to live in sin but this is something my husband and I have prayed a lot about and we feel the Lord is directing me to continue working. Is this wrong? If you hadnt been blessed with your children would you honestly be able to stay at home all day?
What do you say?
I will admit- this one is tough for me. She is providing for her husband, is not withholding God's blessing of children, and is in prayer over the situation.
Without trying to sound rude or mean , I will start with saying that just because God allows something doesn't mean that it is the best for us. We see God allows divorce but the Bible clearly states that He hates it! So even tho we CAN do something doesn't mean we are receiving His full blessing or reward.
Titus 2 :5 states that we are to be obedient to our own husbands. If we have to follow a schedule put together by someone else then we are obedient to someone else. Now if you work with your husband that is totally different.
Why not work from home? Is that possible ? Whether it would be doing the job you are doing now or something new? Reupholstering furniture? (Jennie Chauncey does this, tho I don't know if it's a job.)
Remember , you were created to be your husband's helpmeet. He was told to toil on the earth, not you. You were told to be a keeper AT home. This is your divine calling! What a privilege!
I can understand the not wanting to be idle part.
1) free from labour, at leisure
2) lazy, shunning the labour which one ought to perform
Gardening is the first thought I had. If you grow your own food instead of buying it you would be healthier and save money. This takes time. Time a working woman doesn't have. Canning it would be great too! Having time to learn to cook great meals would benefit you also.
Sewing? Whether it be clothing or items like curtains, you wouldn't be idle!
Learning all about herbal medicine?
Bible study? Leading a study in your home?
Building furniture? How great to say that you built your coffee table yourself!
Study ways to "green up" your home. Learn recipes for homemade cleaners. Hang laundry. Sort recyclables. These take time but are worth it.
These and many other things take up your time so you are not idle. They benefit you and your husband now and your children later.
"The beauty and power of home life is hard to overestimate when a "wise woman builds her house" (Proverbs 14:1). She builds investment and beauty and stability that would make a family say, "There's no place like home." God has appointed a home to be a center of the ministry of the church; a source of peace for all who enter there; a place of hospitality. The home is the fountain of society, and the spring from which flows the members of the church, the ranks of business and the citizens of the realm.
Please understand how important home life really is. O daughters of Zion, see what a piece of heaven you can provide to the weary and lost of this world by making your home a rich and overflowing fountain of the love of Christ. See the importance of a rich home life that sends out happy children to the ends of the earth. See how being a keeper at home makes you a key player in raising the next generation. Understand how you will be filling the earth with worshippers and providing the churches and towns and nations with the knowledge of God."
-Scott Brown, Feminine By Design
As for being desperate for children- my heart aches for you. I really do understand. I have been there. I remember begging for children, telling God that if He didn't give me at least one baby I would die. My heart would stop and I would die. I never cried more. So I am not making light of the situation, trust me.
Have you been trying long? A year is most common to have to wait and that is if everything is perfect.
If there is a problem I am not aware of please forgive me. Is adoption a possibility? If I am being rude, again forgive me. All I can a is to pray like crazy. Not just for a child but for peace. I know the desperation and you need answers from God NOW!
I am sure that I did not answer you fully. I hope I at least gave you food for thought.Submitting to your husband is paramount over what I have written here. Maybe together you will find, what I believe , to be the better path. The one you were created for.
If any of my readers have ideas please share.
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